Many Black couples struggle with communication patterns that don't come from lack of love, but from years of having to be strong, guarded, and self-reliant. The same armor that protected us in the world can block the very connection we're trying to build at home. If you've ever felt stuck in the same argument, wondered why your partner "just doesn't get it," or found yourself shutting down when things get heated, you're not alone.

Have you ever wondered why sex feels so emotionally different with different partners? Why sometimes you feel bonded and clingy after intimacy, while other times you want space? Or why your partner seems to pull away right after what felt like an incredibly connected moment?

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist , I've seen how this framework can be particularly helpful for clients who struggle with: People-pleasing and difficulty setting boundaries, Feeling overwhelmed by social obligations, Disappointment when relationships don't meet unrealistic expectations, Confusion about where to invest emotional energy.

These show when someone has moved beyond just talking about change to actually doing the work. Real change happens steadily over time, not in dramatic bursts that fade faster than your New Year's resolution to work out 5 days a week. People doing genuine work don't wait to be called out, they're already their own accountability buddy. 

Have you ever noticed how your chest tightens when you’re anxious? How your shoulders carry the weight of stress long after the stressful event has passed? Or how certain memories seem to live not just in your mind, but in the very tissues of your body? Your body has been keeping score all along storing experiences, emotions, and memories in ways that traditional talk therapy might not fully address. This is where somatic therapy enters, offering a pathway to healing that honors the profound wisdom of your embodied experience. What Is Somatic Therapy?

When you find yourself repeatedly drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, you’re often unconsciously recreating familiar dynamics from your past. These “nonchalant” individuals aren’t accidents in your life, they're mirrors reflecting an internal belief system that equates love with pursuit, scarcity with value.

Artists like SZA and Mariah the Scientist have become inadvertent therapists for a generation navigating the complexities of modern love and loss. Their music validates experiences that don’t fit neat categories: the awkwardness of being replaced, the desire to be seen and chosen by someone you fell in love with, the confusion of loving someone who seems to have vanished emotionally even when they’re still present.

EFT helps couples and individuals understand the emotional cycles that keep them stuck often rooted in attachment wounds and unmet needs. Together, we slow down reactive patterns so you can create safety, trust, and emotional intimacy with your partner.

Sex is far more than a physical act—it’s an emotional, spiritual, and deeply personal connection. For many couples, it’s where intimacy is expressed, trust is built, and love takes shape in its most vulnerable form. But to truly thrive in this area, it’s essential to understand not just what sex is to your partner, but what it means to them.

Intimacy is the foundation of any successful romantic relationship. It goes beyond physical attraction and encompasses various dimensions that contribute to a deep and meaningful connection.

Unlike traditional forms of loss where there is clarity and closure, ambiguous loss involves situations where the loss is unclear, unresolved, or ongoing. 

Fear of Intimacy: Individuals with an avoidant attachment style may feel uncomfortable with emotional closeness and vulnerability, often preferring to keep their feelings and needs to themselves…

Recognizing emotional manipulation can be challenging, as it often operates subtly and can be disguised as concern or care. Here are some signs that you may be experiencing emotional manipulation in a relationship:

Trauma can have profound and lasting effects on an individual's mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Fortunately, there are various therapeutic modalities available to help individuals process and heal from trauma. In this article, we will explore some of the most widely used therapeutic approaches for treating trauma, along with their benefits and effectiveness.

Healing Emotional Wounds: Re-parenting helps us address unresolved emotional wounds from childhood, such as neglect, abandonment, or abuse. By providing ourselves with love and care, we can begin to heal these wounds and develop a healthier self-image.

Discernment counseling offers a valuable opportunity for couples to carefully consider their options and make informed decisions about the future of their relationship. By providing a structured framework, neutral guidance, and a focus on clarity and closure, discernment counseling can help couples navigate the complexities of separation or divorce with greater understanding and dignity.

Conflict is an inevitable part of any relationship, including romantic ones. However, it's not the presence of arguments that determines the health of a relationship, but rather how couples handle them. Dr. John Gottman, a renowned psychologist and relationship expert, has extensively researched and studied successful relationships. In this blog, we will delve into Gottman's insights and explore practical tips on how to argue safely with your romantic partner.